Tuvok in VOY actually underwent Kolinahr, and there's an ep which flashes back to his childhood as he struggled with an attraction to a Vulcan girl who was not his bonded mate. Also, Surak appears in 3 ENT episodes and one TOS, and there's not a huge amount of canon as to what the Vulcan belief system actually is. Much of what fandom remembers comes from the tie-in novels (which are considered fanon or apocrypha).
But what I've always understood is that Surak's teachings aren't about purging emotions, but complete mastery of emotions--controlling them so you are not controlled by them.
The episodes that are usually cited re: Spock are "The Naked Time" and "Amok Time", and TNG's "Sarek" because those are curcumstances where we see Spock and Sarek break down, and lose control. But also because both Spock and Sarek lament the fact that because they were Vulcan, they could never tell Amanda how they loved her.
Not that they didn't feel love. But that they could not express that love in a way that a human would want/crave/need/understand. Because it was not their way.
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But what I've always understood is that Surak's teachings aren't about purging emotions, but complete mastery of emotions--controlling them so you are not controlled by them.
The episodes that are usually cited re: Spock are "The Naked Time" and "Amok Time", and TNG's "Sarek" because those are curcumstances where we see Spock and Sarek break down, and lose control. But also because both Spock and Sarek lament the fact that because they were Vulcan, they could never tell Amanda how they loved her.
Not that they didn't feel love. But that they could not express that love in a way that a human would want/crave/need/understand. Because it was not their way.