people are fuddy and confusing

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I'm sometimes perplexed by some people's need to spurt out things in converation. Things that aren't relevant to the current topic, or haven't been asked, or are really none of the other person's business when you've just met. Things like "I'm a vegetarian" or "I'm gay" or "I'm not Jewish."

There seems to be this idea from this type of person that the words are some kind of weapon, and if blurted out early enough can spearhead any uncomfortable conversation, or deliberately alienate the other person.

I don't understand why some people do this. And it's not just those categories-- it's anything. It's the type of person. Talking to them and having detailed statements of their personal lives just thrown at you, as if to test your reaction or sow some particular stereotype in your mind... it leaves with a big feeling of "Ok... what now?" I don't know what kind of reaction they were hoping to ellicit, and they're waiting for a response to their declaration. Awkward silence ensues.

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[spikespeigel.livejournal.com]

I'm guilty of this, but it's purely a defensive thing. Example.

Friend: Hey guys, this is my friend, Hazal.
Them: Err, hi.
Me: I'm not a terrorist.
Them: Oooohhhhhh. Hi then.

You know, something like that but less exaggerated :)

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[rashaka.livejournal.com]

Yeah. A bit les exaggerated, but yeah. Conversations like that freak me out.