a question of manners...

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What is the polite way to proceed in LJ when someone you liked defriended you and you haven't any earthly idea why?

Do you fret about it, and re-examine your recent entries, scouring for what you think might have turned this person off of you?

Do you shrug it off and say "Your loss, puny fool!" ?

Do you stalk their journal and bombard them with comments without ever actually getting around to asking them, in hopes that by reminding them ferociously that you exist, they'll friend you again?

Do you email them and say "Why did you dump me, when we were so great together?!?"

What does one do?

Since you probably don't spend a lot of time reading your own journal on their friends list, does it really cosmically matter?

(Observe my fatalistic but pretty icon!)

On the other hand, I've seriously slowed down in adding people. So all the lovely folks who friended me in the last month or two, I'm not ignoring your existence, I'm just suffering overload.

What does "meta" mean?


ETA: i've settled on my proper response.

your loss, puny fool!


but i'll still read your journal anyway. cause... pretty fic, and uh...you're nice, and smart. yeah. whatever.

Comments

[spicedrum.livejournal.com]

I'm one of those people who thinks it's a bad idea to have that list entitled "Friends". It's more of a reading list. People get hung up on their large pack of "friends", and they sometimes feel hurt if someone takes them off the list, as they would feel if one of their actual friends did it.

I enjoy reading your journal, but, honestly, I don't know you from Adam, and if you took me off your list, I wouldn't feel bad about it. I might wonder why, but I know people (and I'm including myself here) are fickle. If someone isn't interested in me talking about how hungry I am or don't like me just posting icons 75% of the time, *shrug* There're plenty of other people that share my interests.

All this is to say, don't worry about it.

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[rashaka.livejournal.com]

I'm one of those people who thinks it's a bad idea to have that list entitled "Friends". It's more of a reading list. People get hung up on their large pack of "friends", and they sometimes feel hurt if someone takes them off the list, as they would feel if one of their actual friends did it.

Interesting theory. It is sort of a misnomer, when you think about it. But that's ok, cause I was going to rename it soon anyway, when i changed styles.